Incompetence is not always a sign of mistakes in the kitchen. To much salt? They could have been distracted. What if the meat was undercooked? Maybe there was a problem with the oven. Sauce bland? It could be that they ran out of spice. We often don’t speak up about the poor quality of cooking.
The closer we are to the chef, the more likely it is that we will hide the truth until, all of a sudden, there’s no way to tell the truth. As this subreddit story from r/TIFU demonstrates, eventually the truth will come out.
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If we trust the author of the post and her husband to be saying the truth and all of this has, indeed, been caused by the woman’s cooking, the two of them could benefit from preparing their meals together.
According to Charlotte Hastings, an accredited psychotherapist and cooking teacher who offers ‘kitchen therapy’ to couples and individuals, that’s because it “cements our need for one another, and our connection to one another, at a very primal level.”
Cooking – or feeding – is the first way we, as babies, learn to attach to and connect with another human, and these experiences have an effect on the way we view intimacy throughout our lives
“Cooking with a partner connects both our goal-directed needs, so getting from A to B, with our connection-seeking needs,” Hastings said.
She added that it’s also a great way to spend quality time together without so much pressure (because you’re focusing on an activity) and that it can really help with problem-solving in a relationship.
“How you cook actually says a lot about how you are,” she said.
“Being able to decide who does what task, especially if there’s a disagreement, can help couples to learn how to negotiate and work through problems without resorting to arguments.”
It doesn’t have to be every day, too. A few times a week or even a month can really contribute to making the relationship healthier. You work out who does the shopping trip, who does the chopping, who cooks, and who cleans up and chances are, it’ll also allow both partners to better understand each other’s tastes and preferences.
